Reading Roundup: 2/2
Along with the insanely copious amounts of reading I have to do each week for my classes in college, I figured I'd try and share with ya'll some of my favorite reads of the week. Sometimes they will be shorter some weeks than others, and the topics of the articles will greatly vary. If anything, these pieces will provide some nice quotes you may need to hear from the week. But either way, I'll try and do a weekly roundup on Friday/Saturday about some of my favorite reads of the week. Check it out and have a read!
by Lara Witt
Yes. All the yes. Teen Vogue never fails to amaze me. The writer, Lara Witt, perfectly talks about something I've always thought about; why do we assume that when women are interested in makeup and enjoy using it daily are vain or shallow?
"As a biracial girl, learning about the male gaze and why I chose to wear makeup was essential because I needed to know whether I was wearing it for myself, or making myself more appealing to the white and male gaze. Conventional ideas of beauty have been dominated by eurocentric standards and anti-blackness, and some of our choices can be affected by these perceptions of ourselves through white standards of beauty and sexist expectations of what we should look like."
"Whether we notice it or not, sexism can teach us to devalue parts of ourselves that are restrictively coded as feminine or “girly” like makeup, fashion, “chick flicks”, communicating emotions and even celebrity culture. If it is seen as being something that women do, then it becomes less valid or worthy of praise. Fields that were historically dominated by women, like computer programing, only become valuable professional endeavors when men became a part of the field in the 1960s. We already demonize aspects of womanhood and shame boys if they enjoy makeup and dolls. That kind of binarist thinking of activities has to end and whether we notice it or not, sexism permeates how we view makeup."
By Lucy Moon
With the rising trend of self-care culture, I love seeing pieces like this that honestly talk about the reasons why a trend like this is so important for the young generation. Lucy is honest in this one, about how we need to change the way we view self-care and how we can make the most of it for what we all individually need.
"We talk about self care as a solution or relief from the everyday pressures, but is having a bath or buying a new lipstick the key to the monumental mental to do list sitting at the front of your head 24/7? I think we need to reframe the way we think about self care, from the arguably rudimentary understanding we have at the moment to a more practical methodology.
A lot of it is about changing the way we talk to ourselves about achievement and failure. My therapist suggested having a system in place to support yourself when things begin to go badly, or your mental health takes a turn for the worst. Retraining your inner narrative to be kinder is a good survival tactic. As she said to me, “Nobody ever comes out of being beaten up any stronger than they were when the fight started.” If we put active effort into regularly reminding ourselves that we’re doing the best we can with the cards we’ve been dealt, we should start to cut ourselves some slack without even realising. So what if I can’t get up before eleven on weekends? It’s not the end of the world if I spend a couple of years of Saturdays in bed. Fuck it, I’m sure that we’ll be grateful for all those mornings in bed once we have children who jump on us at six every morning"
by Meghan Hernandez
Any article that exposes sexist bullshit from men on Tinder will ALWAYS make me chuckle. I was only on the app briefly when I was 19, but I wish I got the chance to do this "would you ever date a feminist" experiment. The writer makes some good points about online dating and she actually goes even further to let the reader know which apps are "feminist friendly" and which aren't. The answer may or may not surprise you...
Casual dating is exhausting. Apps, such as Bumble, Tinder, and OkCupid, founded on such a simple concept of swiping through prospective dates are even exhausting. Being upfront about the non negotiables when it comes to prospective dates makes the whole thing a little less exhausting because for this Bottle bitch, being a feminist is a non negotiable.
By Mecca Woods
Illustration by Austin Martin Courrege
And finally, I always like finding and reading different types of horoscopes. This one I came across this week on Bustle is short and sweet and the digital illustration is so fun and creative. So whether you believe it or not, check your birthday and have a look - it might just brighten up your week!